Dear Mayo Clinic: My teenage son is looking forward to heading back to school this fall, especially after months of distance learning due to COVID-19. Sitting in front of the computer for hours was not easy for him. He says he's not worried about wearing a mask to school or sitting behind a plastic barrier. My 7-year-old daughter, though, is becoming more and more nervous as school gets closer. She is fearful of getting sick and cries whenever we talk about returning to school. Do you have any advice for how I can ease the transition for them?
Answer: School is one of the most important places where children learn and grow intellectually, socially and emotionally. And while the desire is strong for children to return to a healthy school environment, the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic has caused a lot of uncertainty and stress for students, teachers and parents alike.
Change can be challenging, and it is important to remember that not every person reacts to change in the same way. Your children clearly recognize that this coming school year will look different than past years, whether they meet in person, online or use a hybrid approach.
The first step to helping your children transition is to keep a healthy mindset and focus on the positive. As schools determine their approaches, students will need varying behavioral health support based on their age and the class format.
Middle school, high school and college students may find their emotions vary between excitement and anxiety. As your son is older, he may have a better grasp on the requirements necessary for him to remain safe. That said, remind him to stay flexible and be open to the possibility that the format for school may change over the course of the year. Also, let your son know that it is OK not to feel OK. Teens may still need to hear that affirmed by the adults in their lives.
Elementary school students, such as your daughter, may not fully understand why all the health and safety practices are necessary. Parents with younger students should focus on other possible outcomes and steps to minimize the risk of infection.
If your school district is planning for hybrid schooling, such as staggering in-person school days or alternate start times, talk with your daughter about how changes in daily routines can be a challenge for everyone, even adults. Share with her that school administrators and teachers are probably feeling a bit anxious also.
For anyone feeling anxious, it's common to be irritable, or feel a sense of loss or sadness. Problems with sleep, physical tension and worry can result.
Consider these mental health tips to help manage mental health and ease the transition to the school year:
Some people may struggle with more significant mental health difficulties so if you believe your children need additional resources, I would recommend talking with their pediatrician or another health care provider to locate local mental health resources. — Dr. Craig Sawchuk, Psychology, Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minnesota
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